Another great tips to be learn. Female! this is a must for you. Female bullies are just as cruel as male bullies, and dealing with them is often more difficult without a plan in place. Each situation is different, but each can typically be handled in a similar way. Changes aren't going to happen overnight, but standing your ground and staying strong can help you get through it. Don't handle the problem on your own -- dealing with the bullies involves action on your part as well as help from others.
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Talk instead of staying silent. Female bullies don't expect their victims to respond, and once the person does, it can take away a bit of their power. Screaming back may only encourage the bully, so instead, have a private conversation with her. Explain how you don't appreciate the way she's been acting, that if there's some type of problem, you would rather talk to her about it than let it continue, and that it would be better for both of you if the issue was just settled.
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Identify with the bully. Most people likely see only what the bully is doing and not why she's doing it. Many bullies have actually been bullied themselves at some point. Quite a few are covering up their own pain and insecurities and taking it out on others just to make themselves feel as though they have some power; it's a defense mechanism. Rather than hate the bully, do what you can to realize that it's not you that is the cause of their harassment, it's a personal problem caused by something you have nothing to do with.
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Avoid getting emotional about the situation. Female bullies don't just feed off the silence of their victims, they also feed off the emotional responses. If you cry or break down in front of the person, they'll feel as though they have a power over you. Hold your ground, don't cry or break down, and you'll take away some of their power.
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Save any correspondence from the bully. Female bullies typically confront face-to-face rather than by non-verbal means such as texts, email or instant message. However, should you receive any notes, emails, messages ,or texts, save them where they won't get lost or deleted. You'll be able to show proof of the harassment should it come down to it.
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Develop a strong support system. There is nothing more important, and the larger and stronger that system is, the better and more confident you'll feel. Whether the bullying takes place at school, work or elsewhere, have friends there that will back you up. It's also helpful to have others to talk to who don't know the bully -- they can give you an outsider's perspective.
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Talk to a counselor when problems first start. A professional is able to provide an objective opinion, allowing you to vent without worrying that the trust is broken. Whatever you say will also be a record of what went on between yourself and the bully.
(Source: by Lauren Romano of eHow.com)
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