How to Help a Child With Low Self-Esteem Feel Better About Himself

Low self esteem? Ouch..that's could be heart tortured. It can be painful to watch a child struggle with low self-esteem. Most parents foster self-confidence in their children through love and by teaching them the skills they will need to face life's many trials. But often that can be as challenging to a parent as to the child with self-esteem issues. Developing a strong sense of self-worth is a lifetime process that each child approaches differently at different stages of development.

Self-esteem

Self-esteem is the feeling of self-worth and confidence your child develops from infancy through adulthood. It is an ongoing process throughout your child’s life. It begins with the attachments made between you and your baby and the feeling of security and trust that is developed through nurturing. As your child grows, self-esteem develops from a feeling of love and acceptance by the family unit and the people he admires and looks up to. The ability for him to function adequately in the group fosters this acceptance.

Parents' Role in Building Self-Esteem

You can contribute to the building of your child’s self-esteem by recognizing that the two key components of self-esteem are feeling loved and capable. Help him cope with defeats and stressors instead of pointing out successes. During a crisis, let him know that you love and support him. Let your child hear you talk about your ups and downs and how you handle them. Children learn by example and need to know that life’s challenges are normal. Respect your child’s right to make his own decisions as he gets older, and respect his space and possessions. You can also provide opportunities for your child to excel in areas of special talents, and always show love with words and hugs.

Coping with Peers

Giving your child a healthy sense of self-esteem will help prepare him for interacting with his peers. It is normal for him to be easily hurt by peer criticism, whether real or perceived. Acceptance at school is important to children, and enlisting his teachers’ help in fostering sound peer relationships may go a long way in developing self-worth. It is not unusual for your child to feel confident at home, yet uncomfortable at school. It’s important to stress that even though he may not feel accepted at school, he is loved and supported at home. Keep the communication flowing and be clear about the values your family deems important.

When Low Self-esteem is Healthy

On occasion, low self-esteem may be healthy, especially when your child commits an action that is morally unacceptable. Feeling bad or guilty for stealing, bullying or being nasty to a sibling is a beneficial response that can lead to introspection and making amends. The act of confessing guilt, apologizing and taking responsibility for actions can further build upon his sense of self-esteem.

(Source: eHow.com)